Self-discipline means correction or regulation of oneself for the sake of improvement. This is according to Meriam-Webster. Self-discipline is a skill that you acquire even way back when you were younger. It’s the ability that comes within yourself and should be not affected by external factors.
When a person exercises self-discipline it means he or she wants to maintain a good behavior or improve oneself. If a person doesn’t self-discipline, it can root to complications such as physical and mental health problems, disturbance or lack of focus, delaying activities of daily living, financial difficulties, untidiness, responsibilities that are piling up and overpowering you, and a lot of problems can happen. Just because a person lacks self-discipline.
Having self-discipline and refining it will lead to you to have a better perspective in life, do things responsibly, able to manage difficulties, and a better you.
I am blogging about this not because I find myself totally successful in every field that I do. But self-discipline is what keeps me going. It’s something that I have so I can overcome challenges, or manage difficulties. What I wrote here today is based on research and personal experience.
Small Steps to Self-discipline
So how do you start having self-discipline? You may not pay attention to it but small beginnings can take increase a person’s self-discipline. You don’t have to involve yourself into something bigger and stress yourself about it. Start small.
Simple examples on exercising small steps for self-discipline is decluttering. Your room and your work desk should do. Your room is a chamber of relaxation. Start self-discipline by fixing your own bed, tidying up your side table with stuff that you only need, put your dirty clothes in the hamper and that’s it. At work, ensure that you have enough workspace. Make sure your desk is clean, throw away stuff that you don’t need and start your work day right with a good lighting.
You’ll eventually get better at self-discipline if you start doing minor tasks. Got a bigger responsibility or project? Start small. Portion by portion and you’ll be surprised that you did a job well done.
Self-Motivation = Self-discipline
We have to admit that nobody’s perfect. There are days that we tend to get lazy and this just hinders you in accomplishing your short-term or long-term objectives. Why self-motivation is equivalent (or results to) self-discipline anyway?
Motivation is having a reason or reasons for acting or behaving in a particular way. It is also a general desire or willingness of someone to do something (as per Merriam-Webster). So motivation should come within you. Self-motivation is about having the drive or enthusiasm to achieve what you want.
You want to get through the day at work? Have a nice dinner and relax? Then motivate yourself to do work responsibly. Getting through the day is your motivation and something you look forward to at the end of the day. How about a long-term goal? Planning to buy a car but you just recently just started working. It’s ok, remember small steps. Continue doing your best at work, save up slowly but surely, don’t buy things that you don’t need on a long-term basis and eventually you’ll get that car.
Self-discipline is also about pushing yourself to the limit and out of your comfort zone. Through this, you learn to overcome challenges in life and this makes you better over time. Be self-motivated and do not procrastinate. To procrastinate means giving in to the temptation of distraction. If you disregard procrastination, this already means you are practicing self-discipline.
Getting Out of your Comfort Zone
People involuntarily refuse to have self-discipline because they fear to get out from their routine, they walk away from difficult tasks, and stick to what’s familiar and comfortable. What people don’t notice is that this impedes their maturity and overcoming personal challenges.
Life will not always be a routine in all aspects. Change is inevitable and you need to adapt to change by braving up to get out of your comfort-zone. Consider difficulties as a challenge. It exist because you need to get better. Not because it’s meant to reign over your life.
We usually develop a routine when we are at work. Especially if you are working in the same post for a long time. It’s ok to work in the same position for a long time because it’s a learning phase. But you need to decide until when you are staying on that phase. How do you get better if you will continue to be stuck on your comfort zone?
My experience getting out of my comfortzone
I want so share my experience. I’ve worked as a Technical Support Representative in the BPO industry for about 7 years. Got promoted as a Customer Insight Consultant. Then worked in that position for more than a year. And I’ve thought to myself, Is this the only way to develop my work experience? I’ve been working in the same industry for almost a decade.
Honestly I can do my job but not super good at it. But I wanted something more. That’s when I decided to apply as an Administrative Assistant. I’ve undergone several interviews and thank God I finally got the position. I was advised that I’ll be working most of the time on a site that is 20-22 Km away from where I live but I still went for the job.
If I didn’t go for it, perhaps I’ll be staying a few more years on my current job and wondering what could’ve happened if I accepted the job offer. And I don’t want to wonder what could have happened because I didn’t take action because I’m scared to leave my comfort zone. I have to sacrifice convenience (or comfort rather) to be where I am right now.
Don’t limit yourself because you fear to be uncomfortable. This will also affect your future decisions in life because your mindset and experiences are limited. Be motivated, be self-disciplined and get out there and chase your goals.
Establishing Your Support System
Self-discipline doesn’t actually mean you need to do things alone. You are never alone in this. Remember that you have your family and close friends whom you trust. And it’s ok to ask help from them if you’re in the verge of confusion or tough decision-making.
It is important that you surround yourself with people whom you trust and trusts you. Because these people will also help you take those small steps, motivate you, and help you get out of your comfort zone because they believe in you.
There are people who are ashamed to seek help because they fear to be judged that they are weak and lack self-discipline. Remember your family and trusted friends believes in you and they wanted to relate to you so don’t be afraid to connect with them. Showing that you are vulnerable doesn’t always mean you are a weakling. The fact that you showed your vulnerability to you family and trusted friends in fact shows courage. It means you’re not scared to ask for support.
I hope you picked up a lot on this article or somehow have reflected on it. Did I miss something? Let me know in the comments below or contact me here, and be sure to leave your requests for any posts you’d like to read here on my blog too! Thanks for reading! 😉