Stress and anxiety are a tandem in different aspects of your life. Even little things can cause stress. Being stressed and anxious is quite normal at certain levels. I admit I’m the type who easily gets stressed and gets overly anxious with small things. I tend to worry a lot and it’s not really healthy.
On this blog I want to share a few practices if you’re overly stressed or anxious. But first you have to accept the fact that these two: Stress and Anxiety coexist. One can’t exist without the other. Stress is defined as pressure or tension exerted on a material object or a state of mental condition resulting from adverse circumstances. While anxiety on the other hand is defined as a feeling of worry or unease about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.
Stress x Anxiety
So what’s the common denominator between stress and anxiety? I would answer uncertainty. Suspicion, apprehension, doubt, unreliability. Those are commonly synonymize to uncertainty. If a person is uncertain, they tend to worry. Because the outcome of a certain event is unknown or perhaps, uncontrolled and as a normal human being, we stress about it. Yes?
What to Practice?
Acceptance can be done in a lot of facets. And in times of stress and anxiety where you are mostly uncertain. We don’t know how things are leading, we worry that we cannot do something about it or we can’t find the resources for it, we’re uncertain of ourselves if we are good enough to handle all of that’s coming. Accept the fact that you have no control of something that is uncertain.
Reality Check. Life is difficult. Unluckily, life is not a giver of uplifting certainty. So we kind of find ourselves always running, always trying to handle all the uncertainty by doing as much as we can leading to stress and anxiety. We exhaust all that we can or run to distractions.
Good news is we can train our minds to accept the fact that there’s always uncertainty, until you gradually become more comfortable in this state of mind. It is not easy but it is attainable. Accept that in some situations, there’s always a limit in what you can do. Once you’ve done your part then it’s over. It’s time for things to be on its own. Do not control it. Do not think it’s going to haunt you. In addition to acceptance, don’t be afraid to seek for help.
Let it go
People are connected to a lot of attachments which causes stress. You’re attached to a routine, attached to achieving a goal, attached in maintaining a good reputation, attached in staying connected with our mobile phone and a lot more. We can certainly live a more meaningful life by being in the moment. Let go of things that are holding you back to be happy and stress free.
Like this grandma on the photo above. This picture was shared several times during a movie premiere. As you can see, all the people around her are so much into their mobile phone to “capture the moment” where as grandma is just standing there, watching and living the moment. (Read more here)
One at a time
We have a stressed and anxious mind because we’re thinking about anything uncertain. From what I have advised earlier we must let it go, live the moment. Don’t have yourself fully occupied with an event or activity before you. Just dedicate your time and effort one activity at a time. Choose what’s important and do that first. Focus. Because if you don’t you might have an undesirable outcome because you choose not to focus on things one at a time. Once you’re done, the rest should follow.
I hope this blog post helps in easing your stress and anxiety. Do you have other techniques you want to share? Let me know in the comments below or contact me here, and be sure to leave your requests for any posts you’d like to read here on my blog too! Thanks for reading! 😉